Monday, December 12, 2011
Has anyone asked you that after you have been growing your hair out for a good minute?
I just had someone ask me that not too long ago and I was like "What do you mean? It's cooked. It's done. All that's left is to just let it grow."
It took everything in me not to go off on a naturals manifesto on "What do you think I should do with my hair now? Relax it?!?"
I might or might not have been PMSing at the time and had no access to chocolate so she didn't pick the best moment to ask me such a simple question.
I hate when people say that though. I'm like what if the shoe was on the other foot and asked a girl with straight hair "Okay so what are you going to do with that now?" She would give me the crooked eye too, I'm sure.
Don't you love how people just think that either this is a phase, or that we will one day come to our senses and go back to the way our hair used to be "because it's easier and more socially acceptable". Don't you love how people of the same race as us can throw us under the bus to other races by saying that we walk around with "the wild" atop of our heads? (Trust me, I've heard that too.) Or with the assumption of "she just gave up didn't she?" Or the fact that I swear I can tell between the relaxed chick that just walked by me and smiled because she is contemplating stepping over into Natural Land and the relaxed chick that has no clue what wonders lie beneath her chemicals so she resorts to the "I smell boo boo" face when passing me in the store because she thinks that she has it all together, but I don't?
I hope this made sense because I came on here to print my natural manifesto - instead of lashing it out on an unsuspecting bystander who doesn't know any better. LOL.
Wednesday, November 2, 2011
So this is what I went out of the house like this morning to drop everyone off where they needed to be. School, work, yada, yada, yada...
I feel like it's such a cop out to my hair sometimes when I rock my scarves outside of the house. Don't get me wrong, I'm not wearing some crummy looking things either. I have one of the nicest scarf collections ever assembled. Maybe I'll share that with you sometime.
But when I do sport a scarf, I feel like I'm in a disguise. Like the relaxed heads don't know if I'm just between relaxers and don't want the new growth to show, and the naturals don't know if I'm just a newbie with a twa hiding out from the world under there.
I feel like I don't belong to either party. And I feel left out. And quite honestly, kind of like other women think I'm hair lazy. Now I'm not going to lie, but some days I sport it because I am just that. Hair lazy. Is that really a crime?
Well that's just one thing I was thinking about for today and my natural ways. What do you all think about it? When you see a woman with a scarf on, what are your immediate and initial thoughts on the matter?
I know I have been mum since the summer months that I was spending with the kids, but now I'm back on the blogging horse and will be posting regularly and not as sporadic okay? Okay.
Sunday, July 31, 2011
Yep. It is what I have been doing for the past 2 weeks. I have been neglecting it and hoping no one notices. But of course everyone does. My husband was looking at me sideways for the last few days and saying semi under his breath along with a fake cough "Ahem....what's up with your hair? *Cough*...I love you an all but girl gotta work on that fro....*Cough*".
So in his not so slick way I finally figured out it was time to get back to my roots. Seriously. I hadn't touched my roots in those 2 weeks.
Ever since I did my mini twists takedown here, I have just done a wash and go style whenever I actually had to leave the house. Nothing more, nothing less. Until today when I had to go out for a religious meeting. It was at 4:00 and I finally came to realization that the twists I left in and never fully unfurled were now turning into mini locs. Since I'm not going for that look, I needed to get my head in check.
Fast forward to the 45 minutes I spent in the shower cleaning and detangling my fro. At the end I had a great head of hair to show for it. Clean and poppin'!
Tonight I am sitting on the couch catching up on some blog reading and the husband walks in and says "You know this afternoon the shower looked like you got visited by an afro samarai and you got beat!"
I guess I lost alot of hair this go round...yikes! I hope this will not happen again. I am going to be more vigilant and on top of this here cute little mop of mine.
What about you my fellow naturals? Do you ever just let your hair go and then pay for it later? I have a theory that I am still thinking might make a great post but we'll see if I write it down.
Let me know if I'm alone on this front.