Monday, December 12, 2011

So What Are You Going to DO With It Now?

Has anyone asked you that after you have been growing your hair out for a good minute?

I just had someone ask me that not too long ago and I was like "What do you mean? It's cooked. It's done. All that's left is to just let it grow."

It took everything in me not to go off on a naturals manifesto on "What do you think I should do with my hair now? Relax it?!?"

I might or might not have been PMSing at the time and had no access to chocolate so she didn't pick the best moment to ask me such a simple question.

I hate when people say that though. I'm like what if the shoe was on the other foot and asked a girl with straight hair "Okay so what are you going to do with that now?" She would give me the crooked eye too, I'm sure.

Don't you love how people just think that either this is a phase, or that we will one day come to our senses and go back to the way our hair used to be "because it's easier and more socially acceptable". Don't you love how people of the same race as us can throw us under the bus to other races by saying that we walk around with "the wild" atop of our heads? (Trust me, I've heard that too.) Or with the assumption of "she just gave up didn't she?" Or the fact that I swear I can tell between the relaxed chick that just walked by me and smiled because she is contemplating stepping over into Natural Land and the relaxed chick that has no clue what wonders lie beneath her chemicals so she resorts to the "I smell boo boo" face when passing me in the store because she thinks that she has it all together, but I don't?

I hope this made sense because I came on here to print my natural manifesto - instead of lashing it out on an unsuspecting bystander who doesn't know any better. LOL.

My best,

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Naturals In Scarves Outdoors - Yay or Nay?

So this is what I went out of the house like this morning to drop everyone off where they needed to be. School, work, yada, yada, yada...

I feel like it's such a cop out to my hair sometimes when I rock my scarves outside of the house. Don't get me wrong, I'm not wearing some crummy looking things either. I have one of the nicest scarf collections ever assembled. Maybe I'll share that with you sometime.

But when I do sport a scarf, I feel like I'm in a disguise. Like the relaxed heads don't know if I'm just between relaxers and don't want the new growth to show, and the naturals don't know if I'm just a newbie with a twa hiding out from the world under there.

I feel like I don't belong to either party. And I feel left out. And quite honestly, kind of like other women think I'm hair lazy. Now I'm not going to lie, but some days I sport it because I am just that. Hair lazy. Is that really a crime?

Well that's just one thing I was thinking about for today and my natural ways. What do you all think about it? When you see a woman with a scarf on, what are your immediate and initial thoughts on the matter?

I know I have been mum since the summer months that I was spending with the kids, but now I'm back on the blogging horse and will be posting regularly and not as sporadic okay? Okay.

Sunday, July 31, 2011

Afro Neglect

Yep. It is what I have been doing for the past 2 weeks. I have been neglecting it and hoping no one notices. But of course everyone does. My husband was looking at me sideways for the last few days and saying semi under his breath along with a fake cough "Ahem....what's up with your hair? *Cough*...I love you an all but girl gotta work on that fro....*Cough*".

So in his not so slick way I finally figured out it was time to get back to my roots. Seriously. I hadn't touched my roots in those 2 weeks.

Ever since I did my mini twists takedown here, I have just done a wash and go style whenever I actually had to leave the house. Nothing more, nothing less. Until today when I had to go out for a religious meeting. It was at 4:00 and I finally came to realization that the twists I left in and never fully unfurled were now turning into mini locs. Since I'm not going for that look, I needed to get my head in check.

Fast forward to the 45 minutes I spent in the shower cleaning and detangling my fro. At the end I had a great head of hair to show for it. Clean and poppin'!

Tonight I am sitting on the couch catching up on some blog reading and the husband walks in and says "You know this afternoon the shower looked like you got visited by an afro samarai and you got beat!"

I guess I lost alot of hair this go round...yikes! I hope this will not happen again. I am going to be more vigilant and on top of this here cute little mop of mine.

What about you my fellow naturals? Do you ever just let your hair go and then pay for it later? I have a theory that I am still thinking might make a great post but we'll see if I write it down.

Let me know if I'm alone on this front.

Friday, July 8, 2011

Mini Twists Takedown

So here is the result and the after shots for you from my Mini Twists takedown....

Step 1: Take off silk scarf this morning and stare at the smooshed fro for a second, formulate my plan, take a deep breath and move onto step 2...

Step 2: Attack it with some water! Wake my tresses with my liquid hydro mixture of H2O, Vitamin E and olive oil.

Step 3: Rub my hands through it and then tug a little bit at a time from the root up to give it some volume.

And because the weather looked like this all day...

Can you tell it's raining?

I stayed in all day and sported my little fro with no frills, thrills, or whistles. Today I just :o)

My best,

Thursday, July 7, 2011

Can Twisting Cause Carpal Tunnel?

Can it? Huh? Cause my wrists are KILLING ME!! I bet you there are no studies proving this theory, but I think that it very well could cause some serious carpal tunnel or at least some tennis elbow.

Yes, I did get tired of my twists already and wanted to see what they looked like under there. So....I untied the twists tonight and so far this is what I have before I head off to bed.

I will now be heading off to bed and tying up my hair in my silk scarf and then will let it down in the morning and style it then. Are you as excited as I am to see what will happen? I hope so!

My First Mini Twists!

What's good everybody? Hope all is well. I have been radio silent on here for more than a minute that is the truth. But just because I have not kept you all up to date on my hair front did not stop it from doing it's own thing and growing upwards and outwards. :o)

I have been having pretty progressive growth steadily over the last few months and I thought I should share. It's what good friends do, right? Right!

So I finally felt one day that my hair was long enough to start doing more than my usual wash, primp, and go and boy was I right! I have realized that my hair is now long enough to sport a pretty impressive pineapple poof and now a short little mini twist 'do of sorts.

I am not going to lie and say "Oh my goodness I love it, love it, loooooooove it!" because truthfully....I really don't. I think it's a cute hairstyle, but not for long term. Not yet at least. I like how the twists came out but I just don't like how flat my hair is to my head. I like the full body of my fro and frizz to be free to roam. Catch the wind if I may. Anyway, here is the most recent picture of my mini twists. This is DAY THREE:

Full Face

Side Profile

Side Profile



I like the look and feel of it today because of how loose the twists are. I felt like they looked too severe after I finished off the last one. But now they are just loose and more flexible to move around. I like an older look what can I say?

Well that's that and now I would like to hear what you all think. Do you get the gist of what it looks like? Do I need better lighting? Yes and I apologize because the sunshine is not shining in the sunshine state today - go figure! But tell me what you tell...

Pssst...also I'm doing a little survey here. How many of you would watch YouTube videos of yours truly doing vlog updates more so than blog updates? I've always been called a character so I am pretty sure it will be entertaining. Ha! Post a comment with your thoughts on that as well. Cause mamas really contemplating that!

My best,

Monday, February 28, 2011

How Often Should a Natural Shampoo?

Hmm? How often do you shampoo your hair? I wash it about once a week or week and a half with shampoo. But on a daily basis I am wetting it in the shower when I wash up. I find that it is helping with my growth tremendously.

I know that growing up I always heard "Dont wet your hair in the shower because it takes the oil out of your hair", but in my case, as long as I am adding some oils right after my shower I am not missing any oils.

This is currently my shampoo that I've been rocking:

Giovanni Tea Tree Triple Treat Invigorating Shampoo

And I love the effect it has on my hair. It's a great cleanser. It gets all the buildup out and then I can start from scratch. Tomorrow I will show you the effects of it. Maybe some before and after shots? Yeah that sounds about right.

So todays question is, how often should I wash my hair? Any natural hairdressers out there with the info feel free to leave a comment below or drop me a line email style.

Peace y'all...

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Rachel Stewart Earrings

I love her earrings!!! I hope that you ladies have gotten to see some of her jewelry at her site. Here is her link:

The earrings in this photo have sadly been discontinued, but she has many others that you might like.

So go check her out and tell her Lynn sent you!

Friday, February 18, 2011

Calling All Guest Posters!

Hi ladies. I know that I am not the only one with a voice on the matter of our naturalnessity. (It's a word somewhere I'm sure!) And since I'm not the only one, I figure that there are alot of you with varying opinions on the matter as well.

So would you like to use this space for your voice? Feel free to contact me via email and I will get your post....umm....posted.

This is also a great way to expand your readership!

My best,

Friday, February 11, 2011

How About This Inspiration To Grow?

One word.


foto courtesy KCCM

This is La Toya Parker-Lacey and I just read an awesome interview on this natural over at Kinky Coily Curly Me so check it out right here.

This photo right here had me running to the kitchen for a glass of water to start chugging...

My best,

Thursday, February 10, 2011

My Personal Hair Challenge

I have been reading all over the place that there is a Kim Coles' Grow Out Challenge. We all remember Kim from Living Single as Sinclair right? She was awesome.

Well I sometimes like to join in on these festive challenges, but not now. I'm just tired. But at the same time I want to improve my regimen and start on a path towards some serious growth. I have 1 year down as a complete natural headed woman and for year 2 I am really going to attack it.

So here is my Day 1 Personal Challenge photo:

I plan on drinking more fluids, juicing and doing my nightly ritual....nightly. Instead of sporadically like I have been doing. Even with 1 year down I have had a lot of growth. I'm running short on time, but tomorrow I will be posting my before and after photos to help inspire me even more. Till then ladies.

My best,

Monday, February 7, 2011

Nappy Or Curly?

How do you describe your hair? Nappy or Curly? Personally, I refer to my hair as "super curly". Even when I still used relaxers and my new growth would start coming in I would never refer to is as nappy hair growth rather it would be that my "slight curls" are showing.

I don't know......the term nappy just kind of irks me. Makes me itch a little. I mean okay, let me give you more of what my mind is thinking when I concentrate on this topic. My mind rationalizes that I shouldn't refer to my hair that way because all my life when hearing the term "nappy" it was always accompanied by either some teeth sucking (tsk!) or a raised lip or brow and rolled eyes.

"Girl, why your hair so nappy? You need to get that relaxed!"

So therein lies my disdain for that term currently. As a natural now, I just can't bring myself to adopt that term to describe my wonderful head of hair. And why should I? Technically, I haven't yet done my research on the history of where that word came from or who adopted it first, but I can't imagine black people adopting that word for our own natural hair texture back in the day. My mind takes me to a hot and sweaty cotton field and plantation house where the slave masters daughter stares at the little black girl with a longing desire to get her hair to curl just as much as the little black girls. And because she lacks the ability to get said curl, volume, and depth she turns to what? Taunting and name calling. "Nappy." It almost sounds like...

"Not Happy" Hmm....

Us naturals know that our hair is far from NOT happy so why would we call it nappy? It just rings of disdain to me. I've never heard anyone joyously say "Your hair is soooo nappy! It looks great on you!"

A long time ago in high school, I once told one of my Caucasian friends that my hair grows in curly and after a shower if I haven't relaxed it in a few weeks that I get a whole head of curls. Her jaw dropped in disbelief and she said "No way. You're lying." If she saw me today, she would probably go grey on site. Haha!

One final thought, we have all seen white people with just as big naturally curly afros as some of us (the great painter Bob Ross anyone?) but have you ever heard them describe their hair as nappy or hear anyone call them that? I never have. All I have ever heard is "Oh Samantha has a beautiful head full of curls. I'd do anything to have as much volume as she does. I love the versatility she has with it."

But not once have I ever heard a white persons hair described as nappy. Why is that?

Chime In: Okay sound off on this topic, I hope that you all have an opinion either way. Remember though, this site is read by many and profanity is not allowed. Be nice y'all.

My best,

Friday, February 4, 2011

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Red Hair, Black Hair


So I was detangling in the shower last week and combing through my ends when I went to take some hair off the pick and set it aside. I was combing the back and then moved to the front. I set that hair aside as well.

Now since I wear glasses, when I shower I take them off. And since I'm one bad sneeze away from being completely blind, I can't see a single thing further than 10" from my face clearly while I shower.

After I turned off the water I put my glasses back on, leaned down to collect my hair and realized that one group of hair was all red and the other group was jet black. I started looking around like "Did I get this first group of hair from my baby girl while I was doing her hair during her bath?" The answer to that was no thankfully, because Baby Girl hasn't shed any hair in awhile during a combing. So I called my husband and said "Are you trying to punk me? Did you switch my hair out with this Carrot Top red?" He just laughed and said no.

I wish that I had taken a picture of it to show you all because it was something to see. I don't dye my hair. Never have and probably never will. So the fact that my hair has such stark contrasts in colors is just mind boggling. Yet funny.

Red hair, black hair. Granted, it's not as catchy as "Black and Yellow" but it could still catch on. ;o)

Chime In: Do you have different colors going on up there without any reason as to why? Or am I alone on this?

My best,

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Crazy Creative!

Okay so right now I am feeling just as is titled. Crazy creative. I started my night off kind of weak minded and down in the dumps (I blame it on low blood sugar) but now I have been perusing the Interweb and the UsTube and found a few gems that MUST be shared, they are just. that. good.

Without further ado...

Listen to this vocal of this awesome UK singer Jessie J singing this sick song.....if she doesn't blow up then I don't know WHEN music actually died. And yes, this is a performance sitting down so imagine how it will be when standing!

And finally I came across this awesome tote bag designed by this wicked good artist named Mode'. I am now going to actively pursue this as a gift "thoughtfully" given to me by my husband ;o) It's called "Afro" and it's about $25 bucks and can be found here...

After viewing all these things I am feeling highly inspired and I hope you are too. What can we contribute to the world?

Ladies and gents, what's inspiring you today?

My best,

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Why Am I Natural?

It's been almost a full year since my BC and I realized yesterday while doing dishes (where I get most of my thinking done) that I never told you all why it is that I am natural.

I wrote a song about it, wanna hear it? Here it goes.... ;o)

Okay so over the course of about 2 years now, a little over 2, I went on this major all natural health kick. Just one day in Wal-Mart for some reason I turned the lotion bottle that I was looking at over and realized that other than water, I had no clue what on earth all the rest of the ingredients were and figured that at that moment that I had to start looking deeper into all the things that my body was consuming on a daily basis.

This realization led me to rapidly change alot of my ways. I changed alot of my cosmetics over to all natural, most of my food I try and stay as natural and hormone free with.

And I let my new growth actually GROW IN!

Now I started getting relaxers at such a young age that I can't even tell you when it was that I had my first one, it was just something that I always knew was done. Once my roots started curling then I knew it was time to stop itching my scalp - which of course always led me to want to itch it MORE then - and prepare for the relaxer funk to hit the air in my mamas kitchen.

By the time I was grown and out of my parents house, I had never known what my natural hair looked like or even could look like left "untamed". I had gotten the wonderful African women in Harlem to braid my hair once a year for the winter months (3 months of ignorant hair bliss) many times. When I got pregnant with my first child, the first gift my husband got me was a surprise trip into NYC to get my hair braided for 7 hours while he went off to his beloved
B & H video store for the day. I knew that after I would take those braids out after the 3 month hiatus I was always left with a head full of lint but a pretty big and impressive afro.

Fast forward 4 years. That was when I had my precious baby girl. And it all changed after that. At first when I had her, I was so concerned about teaching her how to love and respect herself and to embrace all the unique things that make her her you know? But along with that train of thought, I started to look back at myself and really examine and think "Are you doing that with yourself Lynn?" and sadly the answer was no.

So last year I started to get on YouTube at all hours of the night and watch all of these beautiful women - young and old - cut, trim, transition, and shave their hair down to their most natural state and I realized that it was something that I MUST do also. Even if I didn't have a little girl with similar hair as mine, I know I would have come to this conclusion at this point in my life anyway.

I didn't cut my hair to make any kind of social or ethnic statement. I know where I come from and why God put me on this Earth. Now more than ever, I don't feel the need to walk around having my hair, wardrobe, or accessories shout that to the world for me. I dress in the morning in a way that I find acceptable for me, and hope that others see me for me and not anything else but that. I am so comfortable in my own skin, femininity, and morals that I can look at people of all races, shapes, and sizes and realize that we don't need labels to survive together. Very little separates us. I do not allow my mind or spirit to be influenced by outside media perhaps, that tries to lead me to believe that just because of my skin color or hair texture that I can't have something in common with my Indian neighbor or Caucasian librarian.

So why am I natural? Because I have educated myself to the point of sheer contentment.

Ladies, let's hear it.....why are you natural?

My best,